Rewrite Your Story in 3 Steps
Humans love stories.
And we love the ones we tell ourselves more than any other. Anything you’ve wanted to change in your life is sure to have a story surrounding it. Otherwise, you would have already changed it. That probably won’t be the easiest thing to do but if you want to start your year off right, it will be worth it in the end.
The first step in the process of changing your life is to dig deep and list the things you’d like to change this coming year. Most people will have at least one aspect of their life they’d like to change if they take an honest look at all areas including physical, financial, emotional, and spiritual. Once you have at least one thing you would like to change ask yourself what story have you been telling yourself that has meant things haven’t changed already.
Honesty is key here; you must be honest with yourself, we do quite often know what we could be doing “if only” ….
Now that you know the story you’ve been telling yourself about why you haven’t already made the change it’s time to challenge it. For example, if you want to go on that dream holiday, ask yourself what story you’re telling yourself about why you haven’t already booked it already. Is it money? Is it time away from work? Family commitments? Fear of flying? Are these things really barriers to you going on this holiday? Could you cut back anywhere and start saving? Could you delegate tasks out at work?
Once our mind has created a story around something, it doesn’t want to let go of it. That is human nature. But to make that positive change, you’ll need to be honest with yourself. Ask yourself if you could do things differently to change the habits you’ve created around spending, or your workload as in the examples above.
Now that you’ve taken an honest look at your stories and the behaviours those have produced, it’s your chance to rewrite the script to change the behaviours and habits. That is where the fun and freedom come in. If you’ve told yourself, you don’t have enough money coming in to save for anything, and you’ve proven that it isn’t true by going through your bank statements, decide how you want to feel about saving. Do you want to continue to feel bad/disappointed about never having enough or do you want to feel good about putting all you can into you new fun fund!
Redefining your stories might not be easy, but it works! And it will feel better each time you make a different choice; different choices lead to different outcomes.